Here's What It Really Takes to Be
Financially Free:
Talk About Money—With Everyone. One of the most overlooked
pieces of financial freedom is communication. We’re often
taught not to talk about money, but that silence leads to
confusion, mismatched expectations, and sometimes even
disaster. I’ve learned that it’s vital to talk openly about finances
with your kids, your romantic partner, and your business
collaborators. Kids need to learn early. Partners need to be
aligned. And in business, money must be part of the vision, not
just the result. Financial maturity means you can talk about the
hard stuff with clarity and respect.
Reevaluate Often. Your relationship with money isn’t static—it’s
alive. I’ve had to reinvent my financial habits, beliefs, and
strategies every time my life changed. After every marriage, job
loss, career shift, and cross-country move, I took stock. I asked
myself: What does financial alignment look like now? What tools
do I need? Who do I want to be financially in this next chapter?
Don’t assume what worked before will always work again. Revisit
your relationship with money like you would any important
relationship—check in, ask questions, and be willing to grow.
Confidence in the Unknown. You don’t need all the answers to
move forward—you just need a clear “yes” in your gut. I’ve made
huge moves, literally and financially, based on nothing more
than a deep inner knowing. When you trust that kind of clarity,
you build a foundation that money can’t buy.
Resilience Over Perfection. I’ve filed for bankruptcy, twice. I’ve
had relationships fail, twice. I’ve had to start over more than
once. But perfection was never the goal—resilience was. The
ability to bounce back, to keep learning, to stay open to new
ways of doing things—that’s what builds wealth over time.
Resourcefulness Is Wealth. When I bought my first house with a
partner who had zero credit, I didn’t give up—we got creative.
Letters from landlords, utility records—whatever it took. That
mindset of “we’ll find a way” has been my saving grace more
times than I can count.
Your Relationships Impact Your Finances. It’s not just about
what you earn—it’s about who’s around you. Some people add
chaos. Some add clarity. I’ve learned the hard way that the
wrong partnership can drain your energy, your bank account,
and your peace. Choose people who are aligned with your
values.
Trust Yourself First. I’ve had well-meaning people try to steer me
“off the ledge” of big decisions. But only I know what’s right for
me. I’ve trusted my intuition when it made no sense on paper—
and it’s always led me somewhere important.
Flexibility Is a Superpower. If I had clung to one job, one plan,
one identity—I would’ve missed out on some of the best
chapters of my life. Financial freedom isn’t about rigidity. It’s
about options. It’s about being able to shift gears without falling
apart. You can change careers, change cities, change plans.
Freedom isn’t rigidity—it’s adaptability.
By the end of 2018, the house was
repaired. In 2019, after my tenants
violated their lease, I was able to evict
them and sell the newly remodeled
house for a six-figure profit. Finally—
finally—I could breathe. I joined my
HOA, started enjoying some spare time,
and then… COVID hit.
And I was okay. Because I had
prepared. That sale saved me! I wasn’t
financially trapped during the
pandemic like so many others. I was
safe, comfortable, and grounded.
In 2021, I wanted to reinvest. I bought
an RV to rent out and it did great in
Arizona—until I moved to Denver in
2022. That year, I sold my condo,
closed my massage business, moved
the RV to Colorado Springs, and went
on a month-long vacation before
starting from scratch in a brand-new
city.
I knew no one. I had no business plan.
But I trusted myself.
In 2023, I began building my next
venture. I knew I wanted to help others
find their own power and create
authentic lives, but I didn’t yet know
how. I invested in coaching, systems,
branding, and business development—
every move fueled by trust in myself. I
had to learn how to sell, how to pitch,
how to stand out in a saturated market.
There were weeks where I questioned
everything, and weeks where I soared. I
leaned into my intuition, asked better
questions, and stayed open to change.
Now, in 2025, I’m in year two of my
newest business while working a 2nd
job to make ends meet. Some days feel
abundant, others feel tight—but every
day, I lead with clarity and confidence.
So what have I learned through two
bankruptcies, multiple reinventions,
and the rollercoaster of being a self-
made woman?