Yet, despite my outward
achievements, I found
myself gripped by an
unsettling discomfort —
the kind that creeps up
on you like a ghost in
the night. I started to
notice a pattern. I was
avoiding following up
with leads, neglecting to
charge for services I
rendered, and letting
potential clients slip
through my fingers. My
bank account began to
dwindle, and panic set
in. I realized I was
sabotaging my own
success, but the big
question remained:
why?
Just like a haunted house that traps its
inhabitants, limiting beliefs keep us confined
within invisible walls. They make us question our
worth, doubt our capabilities, and sabotage our
own progress. I saw this not only in myself but in
so many of my clients — brilliant, capable
women who felt they weren’t “enough” to step
into their greatness.
It dawned on me that I
was uncomfortable with
how easily and
abundantly success had
come to me. I grew up
believing that life was
about struggle and that
success had to be
earned through
hardship. When it came
too quickly and
effortlessly, I felt
unworthy, almost guilty.
I realized that the ghosts
of my past — the deep-
seated beliefs formed in
a society that taught me
to play small and stay
humble — were still
haunting me. I was
standing in my own way.
Cobwebs in Our Minds
One of my clients dreamed of starting her
own business but was paralyzed by fear.
“What if I don’t succeed? My family will
judge me. Everyone will think I’m a failure,”
she confessed. I looked her in the eyes and
asked, “But what if you do?” I realized that,
like me, she was haunted by her own
ghosts, her own beliefs telling her that
success was for others, not for her.
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