Yet, I am still here. I'm turning 45 in August, and I've managed to
survive this far. Through years of healing, I began transitioning
from a state of survival to living on my own terms, in my flow,
following my rhythm, with the hope of inspiring others to find
theirs.
Not only am I here, but I have learned to move with the rhythm
of life's waves. I can now swim out of the undertow when
needed, ride the waves when possible, or float when I need to
conserve energy. I used to think success meant constant
achievement to gain a badge of worthiness. I've accomplished a
lot in my years; despite all I have been through. I've impressed
and inspired others by turning dreams into reality. However, in
the last few years, my definition of success has changed.
For me, success looks and feels like sturdiness and stillness in
my being. It means my life is no longer driven by the survival of
trauma, from nearly drowning, narcissistic abuse, bullying, food
insecurity, education insecurity, and sexual assault, among other
experiences, all before age 18. Post-traumatic healing is
possible, and it is the greatest success of my life. Everything
that follows is a reflection of my personal growth and
overcoming.
I spent years searching for ways to heal, but the key was finding what worked for me and my own
rhythm. EMDR and tapping helped me the most in therapy. Empowerment Self Defense gave me a
sense of physical safety. Aroma Freedom Technique helped release trauma from my mind, memories,
and body. Studying the subconscious helped me shift my patterns. Through a process called The Dig, I
discovered my authentic internal operating system and my guiding word: FLOW. This one word has
become an anchor for my being; no matter what is happening around me, it gives guidance.
I've dedicated the last 25 years to healing and helping others on their journey to discover their
personal power and develop sturdy internal systems, enabling them to live as their most authentic
selves. Healing isn't linear. Sometimes the waves feel endless. Sometimes despair lurks nearby, but I
believe personal healing and empowerment are possible.
Try many things. Do what works for you. Choose what's best for you, even if others don't understand
it. We are all different, and sometimes we need different experiences to heal and thrive. Your personal
choice for healing is your personal power.
Connect with Sarah
LinkedIn: @sarahemcarthur
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