Our children learn from how we show up. When we
model that they are worthy of our time, our full
presence, our respect, and our love, we help build
the foundation of their self-worth.
And let me be clear, I am by no means a perfect
parent. I have made, and will continue to make,
mistakes. What matters is that I make my children
part of that conversation. I take ownership, apologize
when needed, and invite repair. Not only does this
validate their experience, it also gives them
permission to be themselves; perfectly imperfect,
just like the rest of us.
That vulnerability creates safety. It teaches them
that they don’t need to perform or people-please to
be loved. They just need to be real.
I’ve learned that the quality of our presence matters
far more than the quantity. It’s the sacred, everyday
moments, the ones that seem small, that build trust,
connection, and emotional resilience.
I create intentional “Date Vouchers” with each of my
children, one-on-one time where they choose the
activity and I bring my undivided attention. Whether
it’s a beach walk, ice cream date, or movie night,
these moments matter.
I also invite them into daily life, folding laundry,
walking the dogs, cooking dinner, which becomes the
backdrop for organic, important conversations
without pressure.
At bedtime, I ask for their top three highlights of the
day. It’s a gentle, powerful way to understand what’s
alive in their hearts.
Sunday is sacred in our home. I rarely work that day.
It’s our reset. We play games, walk the dogs, and sit in
the sun. We let the world slow down and simply be
together.
This is what regulation looks like. And when we’re
regulated, our children borrow that peace. That’s
true leadership.
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